Bitter Reality

Don't struggle in silence Act as a survivor, not as a victim. Understand this ''love is better than anger, hope is better than fear, optimism is better than despair.  So, let us be loving, hopeful and optimistic. Then you can change this world. Love the cold truth of this world not the lies. Your future is not a gift, but an achievement. Select a competitive challenge, It will excite you. Why we should choose the easiest challenges? It's easy to be boxed in a limited life, tougher to compete for expansion.  When ever you decide something don't design a plan B. Because when you have a plan B. plan A never works. Decide for yourself either you are a mad man or a bold genius. There is a difference between these two terms. A mad man is somebody who is not sure about his destiny, he does the same action over and over and over for an unknown reason.  While a bold genus is someone who does the same action over and over and over again for a known reason.  Don't decide y...

Rise Up and Desire You want your life to mean something... It's all on you, you are in charge of your life. Take responsibility. Take actions. Become relentless. If you are weak in certain areas, it won't be for long, if you are committed to be better. Learn, read, make it happen, find a way, and work until your weakness show you a way towards light.  No one can beat you if you don't give up. You are a perfect reflection of your HARD WORK or LACK OR WORK. And LUCK only came to those who have paid their dues. Never complain about other persons and circumstances. Don't say, ''I am not where i want to be. I don't like where I am.  The starting point of all achievements is DESIRE.  Take some TOUGH but RIGHT decisions. Someone might knock you DOWN, but never stay DOWN. It's right time to RISE. It's right time SHOW yourself. RISE UP to your potential. RISE UP past your limitations. RISE UP past our family and friends limitations. Set some standards for tho...

Patience Are you in hurry to get somewhere? Are you destroying your chances of getting there by being impatient? Are you being patient with your dreams or mistaking passivity for patience? Have patience but in correct way. A famous proverb, '' all good things come to those who wait.'' It holds a lot of truth, but it is a saying that is flawed and incomplete. Because waiting alone is not enough for good things. Good things came to those who wait and side wise actively do something. Waiting is effortless and good things rarely come effortlessly. Passivity is not patience, it is a habit. Patience is not passively waiting for things to change. ''This is laziness. But keep going, when going is hard and slow, that is patience.''  Procrastination is a thief of time. Patience has its limit, take it too far and it's cowardice. Actually we have fear doing something and hide it as we are being patient and simply waiting for right time to come in order to do som...

Whatever you are, Be a good one, Have faith  It is easy to have FAITH everything is going to work out, when everything is working well. It is much harder to have FAITH when you are having challenges in your life. This is where you need to have FAITH. FAITH is actually believing in unseen.  FAITH is taking the first step. FAITH is jumping in the end. FAITH is at the end everything will be OK. If you want the prize you can not leave it in the half way. You can not quit. You must play the whole game. Through the storm, through the darkness, through the cold, through the challenges, by fighting with your opponents. Don't allow regret to enter in your life. Don't you dare look back on your life and think ''I could have done more.'' No, Look back with PRIDE. Look back and be able to say to yourself, ''It was not easy, but ''I am so proud i stuck it out. Because it got my reward. Don't say ''Why me?'' Ask, How can i come out of this ...

Journey Only impossible journey is one that you have not started yet. Life is for living: Say hi to your journey, not the struggle. Life is survived by most but lived by a few. A moment when you remove your dream from your mind and get back to work, you realize that you can't be the same. It's not you, when the circle gets wider it doesn't shrink. Every step based on our daily routine is a way to understand what life truly is? Our life is journey: experience it, learn it, live it, enjoy it, celebrate it, love it. We all have a different experience of life at the same time. Don't run fast, slow down, stop following society pattern's, now you sense yourself. What you truly are?  Good thing is this, Allah and this universe truly love us. We are never forgotten and most important we always have a chance. When you do, what you love, success is guaranteed. There is always one more to be learned, exam is very simple: You can pass it if you love and enjoy what you do. You c...

Control Your Anger Before It Starts Controlling You Anger is natural, adaptive, intense and healthy emotion, but it is a weakness not strength. the person who does not show his or her anger, it means they are having more inner strength. Anger is a response of different feelings like: frustration, loneliness, threatening, fear and sadness. It is important to control your anger before it starts controlling you. There are a range of skills to control your anger. Recognize early signs of your anger, handle your anger trigger in a positive way. And understand one thing, by getting angry at someone solves the issue, then by all means go ahead and lash out. The results are you are only increasing your problems, one problem will lead to another, in the end you will find yourself surrounded with problems.Express your anger in a calm way. Unexpressed anger can also cause other kind of problems. Holding on your anger is just like grasping a hot coal with an intent of throwing it at someone else: ...

Saying ''No'' Doesn't Mean You Are a Bad Person Live your life for your self not for others. Don't let the fear to overcome you of being judge, rejected or dislike. It will stop you from being yourself. Don't become a bad user of saying Yes. It's not good for you. Sometime's even you fell yourself thinking no, no, no but in the end you blurt out Yes. Why is it so difficult for you to say no? It's just a simple word. Actually if you are Yes saying person, then you are afraid of being rejected. People thinking negative about is an ultimate rejection for you. Saying no doesn't mean that you are being rude, selfish or unkind. These are all unhelpful beliefs that make it hard to say no. Actually we are always saying to our kids if you say no, your behavior is inappropriate and impolite. If you say no to your mother, father, sister, teacher and so on, you will be certainly considered for being rude, and most probably every one start mentioning you ...

Weaknesses & Strengths No one wants to believe that we have weakness inside us. No doubt we have strength, too, but due to some overwhelming circumstances we easily succumb to our weakness.  Your weakness is your own choice. Build up your weakness until your weakness become your strength. Dete r mination is a key, if you are really determined you can change your weakness to your strong point. The best plan that you can make about your success is to defeat your weakness.  Don't hide your weakness, let other's to know about your weakness. Identify your weak before others start judging you from your weakness. Your major weaknesses are related to your limits. Extend your limits, try to do impossible things. When others think now you are broken, you have to stand still. When people thought that your dream is impossible, then achieve your goal. Then people who you were thinking more talented than you will stand in front of you to learn from about your key to success. When you we...

Secrets Almost everyone on this world have two sides just like coin. one which is visible to everyone while the other is hidden inside you.  The only secrets that you keep with you are the secrets. This is no more applicable, if you want to hide something, hide your secrets from yourself. You are a human being, part of this world. The people surrounded us are very cruel, experienced to get what's inside you.  If you reveal your secrets to the wind, you should not blame the wind for revealing your secrets to trees. Don't write your secrets on a paper, paper can be lost or stolen and can be read by wrong person. The best way to keep your secrets is to pretend there is nothing hidden in me. Behave like an open book.  Your secrets are just like scars. May be your cut is no more, but the line of your scars screams about your story, if you don't share your story, you think it's a hidden part of yourself, but the whole world is keeping their eyes on your scar. It depends on yo...

Rules and Tools for Success Are you an action taker or a procrastinator? Are you a talker or a worker? The people who get on in this world, become successful. Don't talk too much about your actions. Take actions and let your action to do the rest. They will talk on your behalf. Successful people take actions. Take massive actions towards your dream life, but before taking action, analyze your actions completely, no one should get harm from your actions.  This life is a chance for you, you may be a spectator or a participant. Participant is all about action while spectator is only about talking. Most of the people play a good game while talking. But they are separate from successful persons because of their actions. Your dreams can be true, but your dreams require actions.  There is difference between dreams, fairy tale and  good idea.  Dream doesn't care about days, months and years, they will keep coming back to you. your dreams can become a reality if you taking ac...

Money and Insecurity It is not about how much you make money, it is about the way you used for making this money.  Don't try to relate your success to money. Success is not money oriented. Change yourself, your life should be purpose focused not money focused.  Success depends how you define it. If success is related to money for you then keep this thing in your mind, the more you make money, you will become more insecure.  Whenever we decide to go into a business, the first thing that came to your mind is money. Because most of us grow up in an environment where we didn't have a lot of money. But you can't get satisfaction from this money. If you are not happy, if you don't love your work, doesn't matter how much you make from this business. Then this earned money increases your insecurities.  Failure is just like a sign post. Failure is compulsory to judge yourself, to identify your knowledge, skills, abilities, power and gaps required to be filled before getting ...

Willpower, Determination and Success Without courage you can't do anything. Don't wait for good things to happen with you. Get up and do something good. Fill this world hope, it will return to you. But have patience, your work your actions are going to fill a large part of your life.  Every successful person has willpower, determination and good drive. It doesn't mean that they are extraordinary, talented, skilled, smarter or experienced. May be they are average, they are just having determination. Determination doesn't mean that you have to do something big otherwise you are not going to do anything small. The only way to do great work is to love your work, respect your work. If you have not settled with your work then wait, have patience.  But keep looking and don't settle. You can gain confidence only when you are right.  If someone says you can't do something, then by all means do that, now its compulsion for you to do that. Those voices will automatically c...

Silence Silence uses nonverbal language. Nonverbal language includes your facial expressions, gestures, eye contact and posture.  Learn the art to participate in silence. It is a greatest art of conversation with yourself. Because it provides calmness to your soul. Add silence in your hobbies.  It depends on situation sometimes your silence gives you strength or sometimes its a severe thing to do. It vary from person to person. Silence is not having any relationship with educated persons. Few sensible, uneducated persons can understand your silence while few educated, filthy persons even don't understand the silence word. Such persons can't even understand your words. There is no need to low your level for those.  Your silence and communication every thing should be graceful. Confuse everyone with your silence and shock them with your conversation. Your communication never expresses your abilities and greatness. Your ethics, hustle, greatness and abilities will show in yo...

Comparison and competition  We all have done comparison at some point. Comparison is a passive and negative response. Comparison leads us to search for our fault and deficiencies in our personal and professional lives. Most of the time we are unable to control these deficiencies. The worst thing about comparison is this you can't win. More often we compare our self with someone who we perceive as being, doing or having more.   So, when you found yourself comparing with anyone then stop yourself and redirect your thoughts.  It is our human nature to expand. We want to become more. But negative thinking and lack of ability to change our self, leaves us at the starting point. Who you are today is the result of your decision that you have taken yesterday.  We all came in different. We all have different and certain intentions. The only creation, with whom we have to work is our self. Michelangelo said, '' Every block of stone has a statue inside it and it is the tas...

Wake up and go beyond your comfort zone We all have a set comfort zone, consisting set of beliefs, behaviors that we have grown accustomed to.  What is comfort zone? It is a natural state that most people trend towards. Comfort zone is neither good or bad thing. Actually we all feel safe while staying in our comfort zone. But the problem related to comfort zone is this nothing ever grows here.  Growth and comfort do not co-exist. So, if you want to grow, then move out from your comfort zone. If you do not want to go beyond your comfort zone, life becomes predictable. You will not be able to become a person you aspire to be. Decide to do one thing every day that scares you.  Think what would you do on your first day? Stop convincing yourself that you can't do this or can't do that.  A naked truth is better than well dressed lie. The truth will set you free, go real with yourself. The sooner you step away from your comfort zone, the sooner you will realize that it was ...

Luck Or Cause and Effect Luck is nothing but being prepared when opportunities knock at your door.  Small minded people believe in luck and circumstances but strong minded persons believe in cause and effect. Studies show that when ever you change your thinking about something, it causes effect on your neurochemistry. It starts to change the wiring and connections of your brain. In the end it changes your physical makeup, the choices and the decisions. But, in other case if you are frightened, if you pushing back yourself, you are just focusing on victims of that scenario. Then you are always gonna held back because you are looking this world through the lens of pessimism. Once, you understand this point that there is nothing like luck, luck can't help you to live your whole life depending on that. Actually you live within your choices, that's why it is important to make better choices. Your better choices can lead you towards your goal.  Cause and effects: For example if you ...

Don't Limit Yourself Do you want to move forward in your life, but why you don't able to do so? Probably you are limiting yourself. Your only limit is you. You will never be great, if you believe in limits. In this life you are the only person who is holding the key of your life. You may lead it towards success or you can destroy your life. It's up to you. Your thoughts are in your hand, change your beliefs, take actions and move forward. You have heard for countless times that you have only one life, life is short, so live it fullest. Most worst conditions that you face are due to your false beliefs.  Talk to your self and tell so often that you are competent and capable. Everyone makes mistakes, but if you learn something important and valuable from your mistakes. Then this is your first step to make yourself competent. Repeat the affirmation. I am competent...... I am trying harder...... Repeat these line, if you don't believe in start. After passing some time, you w...

Self-pity is the worst possible emotion Stop Feeling Sorry For Yourself - And you will be happy . Now, I am not addressing true clinical depression here. I am talking about self-pity, defined by Merriam-Webster dictionary as “a self-indulgent dwelling on your own sorrows or misfortunes.” Bad things do happen; how I respond to them defines my character and the quality of my life. I can choose to sit in perpetual sadness, immobilized by the gravity of my loss, or I can choose to rise from the pain and treasure the most precious gift I have—life itself. ~Walter Anderson Some of us experience more adversity and painful events in our lives than others. We wonder why our difficulties don’t happen to the “bad” people out there instead of us. Unfortunately, life is not fair. But self-pity is your own choice. Awful things happen. Dreadful circumstances or tragedies will affect most of our lives at some point. It’s okay to cry and feel sorry for yourself and your circumstances, mope around, or...

No one is irreplaceable If you want to know how much you'll be missed when you're gone, put your finger in a bucket of water and then remove it. The hole that's left will be how much you are missed. You may not leave a hole, but you can leave a mark on a person,  a family, a team, or a culture that lives on after you're gone.  You may not be   missed,   but you can be   remembered --in the best possible way. For that purpose you should try to do something for others.  Never do anything wrong with anyone.  Once, an owner was worried due to something, he slapped his manager. Manager can't do anything because he was his owner. When manager went home, he slapped his wife. Wife got angry from this slap, she came out from room and slapped her elder child. He became upset from his mother. He slapped his younger brother. Younger brother ran away from house and kicked a dog. Dog became angry he ran towards a road. A man was standing at there waiting for his car...

Jealousy  A natural emotion, no worries if you have it. Life is not fair with everyone, but it is hard to accept this reality.  It is tough when we feel that someone else has more than us  and they don't deserve it , they don't struggle for it, even they don't want it. No one has perfect life. Perfection is not possible. For time being you may think this person is perfect, but actually you are focusing on his or her good points.  That person may have had a traumatic childhood.   You simply don’t know. Then why you are  wasting your energy  on jealousy? They really may be more deserving of that promotion than you are. Just accept the reality. Be happy and try to become a reason for someone's happiness. Try to be happy or at least try to become neutral.  But jealousy exist, what to do, when you are having such kind of feelings.  Breathe and move forward. Consider that it wasn’t meant to be. This universe is having something for you.  Think...

Thank You ''Thank you”… These two simple words act as a key that can open doors to an instant happiness…  We are seeking happiness and contentment in our life.  Think about it…  No matter what you say you want… Money, Riches, Health, Why do you really want it? When you drill deep inside you, you will find the reason for wanting any thing, it's just a feeling that we believe we will get from having it.  What we will get? We will find happiness and contentment.  And the truth is we can have it now, yes right now, if we are grateful.  But if you think you are not having anything for which you should be thankful.  Then get away from the noise of the world, And think for a moment about what you could be grateful for, I’m sure you could find plenty. Be grateful there is food on your table, air for breathing, life in your body, having a chance to perform better.  Be grateful that you have an opportunity. Decide to live your dreams and never settle until ...