Saying ''No'' Doesn't Mean You Are a Bad Person

Saying ''No'' Doesn't Mean You Are a Bad Person

Live your life for your self not for others. Don't let the fear to overcome you of being judge, rejected or dislike. It will stop you from being yourself.
Don't become a bad user of saying Yes. It's not good for you. Sometime's even you fell yourself thinking no, no, no but in the end you blurt out Yes.
Why is it so difficult for you to say no? It's just a simple word.
Actually if you are Yes saying person, then you are afraid of being rejected. People thinking negative about is an ultimate rejection for you.
Saying no doesn't mean that you are being rude, selfish or unkind. These are all unhelpful beliefs that make it hard to say no. Actually we are always saying to our kids if you say no, your behavior is inappropriate and impolite. If you say no to your mother, father, sister, teacher and so on, you will be certainly considered for being rude, and most probably every one start mentioning you for this no. Saying no is beyond ethic limits, while saying yes is being polite and likable to say. So, from childhood we are giving them a belief of saying no. We associate no with being disliked, bad mannered, unkind and selfish.

On the other side, saying no doesn't mean if you can help other, then just say no. Then you will be rude, unkind and selfish. Help others beyond your limits, Allah will bless you beyond your Expectations. If you can do something then do it, don't think much about that. 

Your self -worth does not depend on how much you do for other people.

On the other side realize that you are valuable. Choose your opinion about yourself over others. Don't let others to impose their opinions on you. This is a point where you should say no. You are unique, valuable and equally important. No one in this world can offer what you can. 

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